The Truth About Early Autism Signs: A Mother’s Story of Realization and Hope

The Truth About Early Autism Signs: A Mother’s Story of Realization and Hope

The Day It Finally Clicked

It was spring of 2019. Nolan had just turned three, and Josie was a newborn. I remember sitting at a picnic table, holding her while Nolan played nearby. A little girl came over and started chatting with me—bright-eyed, full of words. I asked how old she was.
She said she was two.
And in that moment, my heart dropped. This little girl was younger than Nolan, and she could talk so well. Nolan couldn’t string more than two words together. Suddenly, everything my parents and my husband had said came flooding back. I’d had concerns too, but his doctor said he was fine at his three-year checkup. And deep down… I wasn’t ready to believe something might be wrong with my son.
That day was the moment I began to truly see the early autism signs I’d been trying to explain away.

Early Autism Signs in Toddlers: What I Missed

From the beginning, Nolan’s start was rough. He was a big, healthy baby—eight and a half pounds—but he cried endlessly. I mean endlessly. To this day, I feel a bit of PTSD when I hear a baby crying. He had terrible stomach issues—constant gas—and didn’t sleep more than a few hours at a time until he was nearly a year old.

At the time, I didn’t think it was autism. I just thought I had a very fussy baby. My great-grandma had told me her son was the same way. My mom had similar stories about my brother, who was later diagnosed on the spectrum. Looking back now, I realize those were early autism signs—subtle, but present. Still, I kept going, believing Nolan was just sensitive and spirited.

Intelligence, Sensory Sensitivities, and the Signs I Overlooked

Around 18 months, Nolan’s intelligence started to shine. He learned his alphabet, numbers, and shapes quickly. By two, he could recite entire books from memory. I saw it as brilliance—just a sensitive, smart little boy. He was also incredibly active. Always running, jumping, moving. I figured he was just being a typical boy.
But when I got pregnant with Josie, things started to shift.
My pregnancy was rough, and I wasn’t as attentive as I had been before. Nolan started jumping and screaming constantly. Our downstairs neighbor would come up to complain, but I couldn’t get him to stop. I tried taking him out to burn off energy, but it was never enough.
After Josie was born, things took a nosedive. Nolan couldn’t stand to wear clothes—no matter the incentive. He started doing echolalia, parroting back everything we said. His tantrums became intense and unpredictable. I remember one day at the grocery store—he screamed and clung to the doorframe, refusing to go inside. I couldn’t get us through the doors.

These weren’t just quirks. They were early autism signs—sensory sensitivities, communication challenges, and difficulty with transitions. But I didn’t see them clearly until that day at the park.
Growing up with a brother on the spectrum, I’d normalized a lot of these behaviors. They didn’t seem unusual to me. But that day… it finally clicked. Nolan’s behaviors weren’t typical. And I needed to help my son.

Accepting the Diagnosis: A Message to Other Parents

Before I got Nolan help, I tried so hard to convince myself that nothing was wrong. I called autism professionals, hoping they’d tell me he didn’t have it. I wanted so badly to hear that everything was fine.
If you’re a parent who thinks your child may be showing early autism signs, please—don’t do what I did. I know how hard it is to even consider that something might be wrong with your precious child. But the sooner you accept that they need help, the sooner they can thrive. If you are unsure, the Autism Research Institute has a free online autism assessment that you can use to see where your child is at.

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Gentle FAQ: Early Signs of Autism and What Help Can Look Like

What were some of the first signs of autism in Nolan?
Looking back, the signs were there—just scattered and subtle at first. Nolan had delayed speech and struggled to form sentences. He was extremely sensitive to clothing and sounds, and he had intense tantrums when routines changed. He also showed echolalia, repeating phrases instead of responding directly. At the time, I saw his intelligence and energy and thought he was just quirky and bright. But those behaviors were part of a bigger picture.

Did you notice sensory issues early on?
Yes, though I didn’t recognize them as sensory-related at the time. Nolan cried endlessly as a baby, had stomach issues, and couldn’t sleep for long stretches. Later, he couldn’t tolerate clothes, needed constant movement, and had a hard time calming down. These were all signs of sensory processing challenges.

How did you come to accept the possibility of autism?
It wasn’t easy. I spent a long time trying to convince myself that nothing was wrong. I even called professionals hoping they’d say he didn’t meet the criteria. But the turning point came when I realized that getting help wasn’t giving up—it was choosing love. It was choosing support, possibility, and a better future for Nolan.

What would you say to another parent who’s unsure?
Trust your gut. You know your child better than anyone. If something feels off, it’s okay to ask questions. It doesn’t mean you’re failing—it means you’re showing up. And the sooner you seek support, the sooner your child can thrive.

You’re Not Alone

This was the beginning of Nolan’s journey. And mine, too. If you’re walking a similar path, I see you. Your child is still whole, still worthy, still full of possibility. And you—just by asking the hard questions—are already showing up with love and courage.